Forgiveness: Free Yourself
Part of being free means learning how to forgive. Forgive yourself first and then extend that forgiveness to those who have harmed you.
You see, one of the biggest misconceptions about forgiveness is that by forgiving someone we somehow make right what they did. We believe that if we forgive, then we condone their actions.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
You see, your dreams and your journey are present-time things. They know nothing of the past and are unconcerned with the future. Dreams manifest in the now. The energy of your journey only exists now. There is no other time that it can exist.
So, forgiveness breaks our chains with the past. It helps us to learn from the past and no longer let any traumatic experiences dictate our present moment. That way, we are free to manifest here and now, no longer ruled by the events of the past.
Forgiveness is actually a very selfish thing. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you condone the wrongs; forgiving someone means you are no longer willing to let pain from the past hold you down from living your dreams.
Dreams and your highest potential take major energy to create. If you’re too busy using your energy and attention to keep the past alive, there is no way you will muster enough energy to bring them into reality.
So, today, not for them, but for you, forgive them. Forgive them with all your heart. Create enough space and acceptance in your heart so that no event of the past can harm you any longer. Let go of the pain and step into this present moment renewed and re-energized.
Forgiveness is the business of love. Your energy and attention has to be in there, here and now, for you to be able to take action in the now for your dreams and highest potential to materialize.
Forgive them, not for their sake, but because your dreams are counting on you to.
hi crystal :
i’d like very much to hear your thoughts about the opposite : being forgiven. about a year ago, i wrote to a person i harmed in my life asking forgiveness for the harm i inflicted a number of years ago. i take full accountability for the hurt i caused and have corrected the behavior in my life. i have also forgiven myself and am moving forward. last night i was awakened by my partner as i was dreaming that i was asking (begging?) forgiveness from the person i harmed, and was distraught. in recalling the source of my angst, i realized what i was dreaming and am trying to understand the dream. ultimately i know that all i can do for this person is apologize and ask forgiveness. i have no control over her acceptance (which she rejected, which is okay). i also know inside me that changing my behavior is the gift i received from the experience, and it is (absolutely) a better way to live, and i’m grateful. i suppose my curiosity is over the angst i experienced in my dream. any thoughts?
thanks for the great article! i love your expressionism and am a person absolutely in search of (and grateful for my own journey into my own best …
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