Starting a Meditation Practice: Rituals Work!
I’ve never been much for formality. It’s a familial thing. My parents’ spiritual proclivities—if they had them—were very much their own personal business. Even though I haven’t gone in for institutionalized rituals, if I’m honest with myself, I realize that I’ve formed my own personal rituals around all kinds of things—my morning routine, my bedtime routine, and my meditation practice, among others.
Meditation is not easy. After 27 years of meditation practice and 31 years of asana practice, I can say unequivocally that, at least for me, meditation is much more challenging than physical practice. It is challenging because I’ve found my body to be much more cooperative than my mind. Even after decades of steady practice, I still sometimes sit down for my 30-45 minutes of sitting practice in the morning and may enjoy only a few seconds of real mindfulness.
Because meditation is a challenge, it is easy to decide it’s just not working, and it’s time to give up. Even though it is hard and humbling at times, little by little, our minds do change. They do calm down. It may not seem so at times, but truly, equanimity creeps in sometimes when we least expect it.
Sometimes it is helpful to create personal rituals around our meditation practice. In the same way we might have come up with a morning ritual and a bedtime ritual, filled with things we deem necessary to prepare us for our day or for sleep, we can create rituals that remind us that now is the time to sit and be mindful.
Here are some of the rituals that have worked for me:
1. Set aside a sitting space
I live in a very small house, but 25 years ago, I set my meditation cushion and zabuton down in a corner of one room, and that has been my meditation space ever since. I don’t have to drag out my cushion and set it up every time I want to sit. It’s always there, and as soon as I sit there, the years of consistency have trained my mind to settle—at least a little—when I sit on my cushion. If you live in a larger house, setting aside an entire room for yoga and meditation might be an option.
2. Rituals can help you set intention
Most of the long silent retreats I’ve sat have employed tingsha bells to announce the beginning and ending of each sitting practice. Ringing a bell to start and end my practice allows me to begin and end with a pleasant hearing meditation. After ringing the bell, I allow its sound to vibrate through me.
I’ve never lit candles for meditation, but many people find the ritual of lighting a candle to help them shift from their everyday mind to a more settled mind.
3. Make meditation a part of your day
One of my biggest challenges has been fitting meditation into my schedule. I practice first thing in the morning, because I’ve learned that if I put it off until later, it will not happen. Early mornings are the only times I can count on to be able to sit undistracted by the phone or email. Sometimes I practice for a couple hours and include a full-blown asana and pranayama practice. Other times I might just sit for 30 minutes. Five minutes is more beneficial than no minutes!
For me, meditation practice is just as crucial to my well-being as eating breakfast, brushing my teeth, practicing yoga. It’s my way of checking in with the state of my mind, and giving it the care and attention it deserves. If our minds and thoughts are the forerunner of all our actions and choices, what could be more important than a daily check-in?
Do you have rituals that help you practice? Please share them!